Confessions of a Business Coach!

As a business coach I do my best to live within the integrity of what I coach. For me that means, I keep store hours, work from my dream list, and put what I want to accomplish on any given day into its very own time slot in my very sexy calendar. This is how I keep time on my side…rather than it feeling like a tyrant. I get things done and I’m on top of my game. And all this without that never-ending-nasty to-do list!

For years I worked my network marketing business this way, coaching these tools to downline and now to coaching clients. I know it works. Most of what I do each day (when I’m doing it right!) furthers not only my monthly goals but also my annual and five year plan. It gives me the freedom to enjoy my time off (which gets planned first) and also allows me to be the efficient, functioning Chief Executive Officer of my business.

But you know sometimes it just doesn’t work out the way I want it to. This last month is a classic example. I have either been in high gear moving quickly or cooling my heels waiting for things to get to their next step, so I can go into high gear again. Now that doesn’t sound too bad, except most of this high gear stuff has had absolutely nothing to do with my business.

With the exception of my big rocks (even in chaos my store hours and that oh so sexy calendar save some things!) my focus has pretty much been pulled away from my business. The bulk of my energy has been directed toward getting our house ready for sale, sold and then making sure that all of the feasibility studies we wanted to do on our new home were executed quickly so we’d know what we had in store and could get a working time table in place. Everything of course has a sense of urgency because of the escrow dates that need to be met.

In the end working at this rather furious pace, outside of my regular store hours and without (big mistake here) the full utilization of my calendar, although we’ve gotten a lot done I’ve also spent a lot of energy feeling like I’ve got one foot nailed to the ground. Not surprising really, that is usually what happens when we try to put ten pounds into a five pound bag!

One outcome of this craziness, I don’t have my usual energy level or enthusiasm for anything. I’ve found myself in some kind of emotional and work limbo. Not feeling bad really but not feeling like myself either. Frustrated that what I want to be doing just doesn’t seem to be in the cards. So much energy going out with such little planning except blow and go and in the end I’m much more tired than usual.

I’ve found myself really fighting this with the “outta be’s.” You know the inner dialog of, “I ought to be doing this or I ought to be doing that in my business”…but I simply couldn’t ..or didn’t.. get into action.

Bottom line, like it or not I was taking some down time from my original business plan which got thrown into a bit of a tizzy because of buying our new house and all that that entailed.

Then I realized after talking with my coach and mentor Andrea Lee that I might as well enjoy it…the down time I mean….’cause it was happening whether I wanted it to or not.

What’s the moral to this story? (Well, if it’s a confession we might as well have a moral, right?) ;-)

If you realize you’re taking time off…that you’re down for whatever reason…then for heaven’s sake enjoy it. And actually not for heaven’s sake, but for your sake, enjoy it. If you do, what would otherwise feel guilty or out of synch will now replenish you.

Here’s what happened to me. As soon as I let go of my angst about what was not…and got back into the flow, I was able to get a hold on my store hours, my dream list and my oh so very sexy calendar. How do I know I’m back….

You got this ezine!

Be good to you!

4 Responses to “Confessions of a Business Coach!”

  1. Suzanne B. Says:

    This is great! It’s awesome to find that I am not the only one who had ever gone through what Jillian is presently going through. What an amazing Industry that we can take the time to sell/ buy houses, take care of sick relatives, help with worthy causes and still get paid.
    I had to take some time off last year for personal reasons. When I returned to my Arbonne business my checks had grown. These days I take my business seriously, but not myself. WOW! I can have fun? I’m all choked up. Guess WHAT? I think I’m going to take the day off.
    What have I learned this year? I’ve learned to appreciate the following phrases “life is short” and “you can’t take it with you”.

    Thanks for being real Jillian!

  2. Susan Tasker Says:

    Jillian,
    Thank you so much for sharing that confession, you have lifted a big weight of guilt off my shoulders and you are absolutely right! I have been feeling so bad about this months activity and in all reality I could never have done it all and enjoyed myself in the process. I have had no energy because of the guilt and just reading your message has freed my mind, to think clearer and get back on track, in a fun and positive manner. This truley was sent to me at a perfect time!!! Thank you for being YOU and sharing.
    Love and blessings,
    Susan Tasker

  3. Debbie Robertson Says:

    Jillian,
    You are so funny……..You brighten my day.
    Your ezine was so refreshing. Thank you
    for sharing all that you do. The classes
    and NTC have helped me so much in going
    towards my dream list and working that oh
    so wonderful calendar that helps keep me
    in line. (hehehe) Thank you again.
    Keep Smilin ;-)

  4. Kathy Bitschenauer Says:

    Jillian:

    I am so glad I read your story. My youngest grandson died on May 2, due to tragic consequences of swalling a round, flat battery the size of a nickel. We had just celebrated his one-year birthday on April 13, before he died.
    I am strugglingl with getting back into business, but can’t seem to get there. My mind keeps going to what I need to do for the Farewell Service on May 21 and our church memorial service in June.
    Your story “gives me permission” to let myself take the time I need to grieve and to participate in end-of-life-events for him, and not feel guilty about it.

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