In my last ezine we talked about being focused on results and how that typically produces exactly what we don’t want…less than stellar results.

Why? Because being focused on the one piece over which we have little or no control – the end result – typically makes us anxious. That makes sense too doesn’t it? If you’re trying to control something you don’t have any control over one can realistically expect that would produce some mental distress!

And I don’t know about you, but when I’m under mental stress I’m not functioning at my best! And if I’m not functioning at my best my confidence level starts to dip too. How about you?

What’s the best way to handle this? Focus on what you do have control over. Not sure what that is? Go look in the mirror. In the end friends the only thing we have any control over at all is ourselves.

Don’t toss this down or hit delete just yet. I know those are only words. I know it’s not always easy to “get a grip.” But I have a few tricks to help you get ‘you” on a smoother path.

In the last ezine I coached you through some things that you can control and that will ultimately boost your results. And more importantly add much more enjoyment to anything you’re doing. I know that’s a big claim but if you’re willing to do some things a bit differently you will have more fun all the time.

Remember Ruth and her “lousy golf game” from our last ezine issue? Her score was way too high and she wasn’t having any fun. Ruth did two things last week and only two things differently.

First, she bought herself a tool that allowed her to free up her mind during each hole from worrying about how many strokes she was taking. She didn’t have to remember her “ever mounting score” anymore the “stroke counter” would take care of that.

Second, she agreed that when she realized she wasn’t enjoying herself she was going to ask herself, “What do I need to remove in order to have more fun.”

Now I’d like to tell you that Ruth’s score improved by 10 points but it didn’t. Well it sort of did! And yes, Ruth would tell you that her game improved. Why? Because she didn’t have the same angst while playing. And the part of her game that Ruth was stressing over, her putting, did improve greatly. As she said to me if my driving game hadn’t gone “to pot” I would have shaved 10 points off my score.

She was actually stoked. Because she did see improvement. And because she knows she can drive better than she did she felt it is only a matter of time before her game becomes more consistent at the lower score. She also realized that she could use a new driver. She was probably costing herself distance in her game because of a less than stellar tool.

Ok so how do you take these “golfing tips” and use them in your business so you can enjoy your business more?

What do I mean “be aware”? Check yourself out. Literally. How’s the stomach. Got a knot in it? Are you hands clenched tight? Do you feel like you’ve got to think about breathing? What’s going on with you?

In other words you’re going to start to pay attention to how you feel.

When do you do this? ALL THE TIME.

• Be aware of how you’re feeling when you’re doing desk work (those administrative duties).
• How are you feeling when you’re talking to team mates?
• How do you feel when you’re talking to someone about your products?
• What’s going on with you when you’re interviewing a possible new recruit?

Then the next question you ask yourself is:

What do I need to remove in order to feel better?

Ruth realized a golf stroke counter – a simple tool would help her take her eyes off her score. Next she’s going to try out some new drivers to help her distance. But the biggest thing she did was simply pay attention to how much fun she was having.

If you’ve worked with me before or read this ezine then you know that I believe and coach that awareness is curative. In other words things generally improve simply because you’re aware – paying attention!

And folks you have full control over that. It may take some practice but you do have control over that.

Bottom line: You can keep doing what you’re doing now and feel exactly like you feel or….you can get a grip on you by trying something different.

What’s it going to be? The ball is in your court.

And if you’re ready to put your “business card” to work for you check out my “Referral Card” program. Talk about a confidence builder! We start Monday.

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